My Holding of Gender

Consciousness is without gender.  

When we strip away the meaning making and assessment of experience, when we remove all the filters of “How am I being seen?” and attachments to identity (“I’m this kind of person.  I fulfill this role and do these things in the world.”) then what’s left?  The pure presence of consciousness peering out of this human meat suit has no concern for gender or any other identity (feminist, queer, POC, trans,  American, Republican).  No care at all.  Those are all constructs of ego or relational dynamic, or geographical border.  Do people in those identities have vastly different life experiences that have informed them? Yes!  Absolutely.  And that very real material of circumstance and personality can be extremely consciously identified and handled and is still different from the present and equanimous essence of consciousness.

This is why I strive to hold space for people where they’re at.  It’s important to be sensitive to the fact that identity it a HUGE amount of material people need to process.  Do I expect anyone contacting me to have moved beyond their identity? Hell no.  That’s why I have separate pages for my work with “men” and “women”: people identified (by other people) as men or women have distinct life experiences.  I struggled with the binary presentation, but the thing with all my work of non-duality is that the integration begins with making the spectrum conscious and leaning into the fullness of the polarities.  Only then can one let go of the illusion of the binary and the restrictions it imposes.  The wording of Masculine/Feminine and Alpha/Omega serve to address polarities well beyond stereotype and include the wholeness of human expression.  It’s the same way our daily cycle is encompassed by Night/Day and judgments get sorted into good/bad.  I’d like to point out the brilliance in this wording of Alpha and Omega to cover the full spectrum of experience as developed by Justin Patrick Pierce and Londin Angel Winters.  From A to Z on the scale, there is no hierarchy.  It is not Alpha and Beta, which would be an apt way to describe how people quickly collapse into an enculturated misunderstanding of the roles.  

Part of the process is absolutely going to be in loosening the identification to one gender over the other, or even an attachment to being non-binary.  But I assure you, it will not confine you to any definition you currently imagine yourself controlled by.  
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The Soul-mate Within work, as developed by Dr Shakti Malan, is the most direct path I’ve ever heard of to incorporating the strongest and most loving relationship available with one’s totality.  And her polarity integration work combined with Justin and Londin’s Alpha/Omega work in sexual polarity are an incredibly liberating combination.   

It’s an honor to usher people into this divine meeting of their inner fullness. ​